Does my butt look big in these jeans?
Honestly, I would be ok if you said, “Yes,” because I’m lacking in this area .
Anyone else find it hard to answer questions like that? Especially when it pertains to someone you love, or really care about?
If you ask me a question that you probably already know the answer to, but want someone to give you a different answer than the one your mind is settled on, you should probably NOT ask me.
That’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
If you want someone to tell you the truth, you can ask me. I promise to be kind and gentle, but I also promise to tell you the truth.
Honesty is the best policy.
I believe, if you REALLY love someone, tell them the truth. Tell them that what they are doing is not healthy. Tell them that what they did was wrong. Tell them that person is not good for them. I can’t make someone change anything about themselves, or make them live life differently, but at least they will know that you love them enough to be honest.
Sometimes the truth hurts. . . The truth, depending on the situation, usually hurts.
If you’re worried about that person getting mad at you, or not speaking to you again, I totally get it. I’ve learned that close friendships are so special that without honesty and truth in those relationships, there’s really no point.
Don’t be afraid – it takes practice, and I often preface the answer to a difficult question with, “Look, I love you, and because we are friends, I’m gonna tell you the truth. . .”
Please know that kindness is of the utmost importance when you’re being honest. Be kind, be gentle, be a little firm if you have to, but be honest.
I, myself have a group of women in my life that I consider my “Truth Squad” (also known as my accountability partners). They love me, they lift me up, they tell me like it is, they correct me, and they are honest with me. We all need these kind of people in our lives; it’s how we grow, it’s how we become better.
We all want to be better, right?
Find friends who will tell you the truth in love, and when you find those friends, don’t let go of them, and give them the freedom and permission to tell you the truth. These are the best relationships you’ll ever have.
Do you have a “Truth Squad”?
~ Mrs Galvan~
“Close friendships are so special that without honesty and truth in those relationships, there’s really no point.” This is excellent, Leslie, and I really liked your post. I think I’m going to have to make ‘Truth Squad’ a thing with my accountability partners.
Thanks Gil! And thanks for reading my post!
I feel like most of my “squad” are enablers haha. We all justify each other and tell each other what we want to hear I think. I think its important to have at least one friend that will tell it like it is though.
As a woman, it’s easy to be an enabler- been there but honestly I don’t want a friend who isn’t gonna tell me like it is. I want those friends who tell me I have a booger hanging out of my nostril or broccoli in my teeth. I want the friend who kindly, and lovingly tells me that what I said to someone in front of her was rude or inconsiderate. I want a friend who wants me to be better and wants me to help her be better too. Otherwise, all I’ll have is shallow friendships and fair-weather friends. Challenge your friends to be your #truthsquad- start a trend 🙂